Step Four: Becoming an Effective Small Group Leader—"You Do, I Watch!”

One of my greatest joys in ministry is to watch children in whom I have poured my life flourish.AdobeStock 47458681 72

Watching them struggle with responsibility and then come out on the other side doing amazing things for the Lord is such a joy.

What I have learned in the past ten years is that when I incrementally give kids responsibilities beyond their abilities, they almost always step up to the plate.

One young lady who served with me for more than seven years told me during one of our mission trips, “I know what you are doing now.”

I said, “What’s that?” “You always give me the impossible, and after I go through it, I am looking for the next big thing that God will do in my life.”

She got it!

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Step Three: Taking Your Small Group to the Next Level—You Do, I Help!

Okay, we have talked about the first model of being a great disciple group leader—being a model for your class or group of what the Christian life looks like (”I Do, You Watch”).Bible study

That means you do everything.

You are submitted to the lordship of Christ, you do your daily quiet times, you teach, you pray for them, you memorize the verse, and you take records.

All the while, they watch and observe.

The challenge here as I have explained to you before, is that you cannot stay here.

If you get stuck in the teaching style where you do everything and the kids just sit and listen—you have a problem.

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If you are a perfectionist like me, it is really hard to share responsibility with others.AdobeStock 226282426 72

That was my problem years ago when I first started out in children’s ministry. I was at a small church.

I guess I was a little bit OCD.

When it came to setting up the chairs for children’s church, I loved the square titles on the floor.

They were perfect for lining up the chairs in a nice, clean, straight row. It was great until the kids showed up and got them out of alignment.

I was the worst!

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Man! I wish I had known this before I started out in children’s ministry.

When I first started out in children’s ministry, I had no training at all.AdobeStock 191951134

I was put into the children’s church and told not to come out until the adult worship service was over.

Not really, but you know what I mean!

I had no earthly idea how to take a group of kids on a journey of spiritual growth.

I knew God had called me to work with kids, so I did the best I could by following His leadership. It sure did keep me on my knees a lot praying for wisdom.

If you are like me, when I chose curriculum or resources for the kids in my church, I had a simple plan…

If the cover looked really cool, I bought it!

Most of the time, I found out later on that the content was shallow.

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